Paula Swenson

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No Regrets

In authentic life, Time and Change on September 11, 2010 at 12:53 pm

I think most people would agree that a life with no regrets is a fine thing to aspire to. Experts on human behavior say that people more often regret that which they leave undone, than the things that they do.  In this vein, I’ve long believed in trying things, having experiences; the bad ones make great stories and the good ones are irreplaceable!

When it comes to dreams, we often push them aside. Sometimes it is to solve the problem immediately in front of us, sometimes it is to silence inner or outer critics, sometimes pursuing our dreams seems too risky, foolish, or expensive; sometimes we think we are too old or too young or too . . . whatever.

Sometimes we end up living someone else’s dream . . . and we do it for so long we forget what our own dreams really are.  I recently read an article by Bronnie Ware, a lovely Australian songwriter/healer (read the full article on her blog ).  For many years Bronnie worked doing palliative in-home care for the dying.  The article recounted the top regrets shared with her by those whose lives were coming to a close.  Number one?

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

I humbly entreat you not to put off your own dreams any longer, not to linger on the path that leads to regrets, but instead to embrace your dreams, honor them and start fulfilling them.  Start making choices in favor of your dreams.  Choose to be extraordinary.  You won’t regret it.