Paula Swenson

No Regrets

In authentic life, Time and Change on September 11, 2010 at 12:53 pm

I think most people would agree that a life with no regrets is a fine thing to aspire to. Experts on human behavior say that people more often regret that which they leave undone, than the things that they do.  In this vein, I’ve long believed in trying things, having experiences; the bad ones make great stories and the good ones are irreplaceable!

When it comes to dreams, we often push them aside. Sometimes it is to solve the problem immediately in front of us, sometimes it is to silence inner or outer critics, sometimes pursuing our dreams seems too risky, foolish, or expensive; sometimes we think we are too old or too young or too . . . whatever.

Sometimes we end up living someone else’s dream . . . and we do it for so long we forget what our own dreams really are.  I recently read an article by Bronnie Ware, a lovely Australian songwriter/healer (read the full article on her blog ).  For many years Bronnie worked doing palliative in-home care for the dying.  The article recounted the top regrets shared with her by those whose lives were coming to a close.  Number one?

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

I humbly entreat you not to put off your own dreams any longer, not to linger on the path that leads to regrets, but instead to embrace your dreams, honor them and start fulfilling them.  Start making choices in favor of your dreams.  Choose to be extraordinary.  You won’t regret it.


Creative Sparks

In Art and Creativity, Uncategorized on May 1, 2010 at 4:13 pm

“Art is the very human act of creating the uncreated.” ~Seth Godin

We’re born to create, as children we create all the time, invent stories, dream up imaginary friends, draw fantastic scenes never before glimpsed . . . we don’t care a whit about ‘getting it right’ we just create.

Gradually, we learn by example to criticize our creations, we start to reject our ideas as well as our execution of the ideas, until we end up living inside a very small box.

If you are ready to crawl out of your box, it’s time to start searching for creative sparks. Rekindle your imagination, book yourself on a flight of fancy! Find mythical creatures in the gnarled roots of trees. Spend the afternoon lying in the grass watching cloud shapes mutate. Pick wildflowers and weave yourself a crown. Drop pebbles in a pond and watch the ripples intersect. Open the yellow pages or the dictionary and look at the paired header words and make up a story about the resulting phrase.

Creativity is highly flammable, the smallest spark can set it ablaze if you let it. Start a fire under your creativity, then grab a brush or a pencil and capture a glimpse of the magic.  Once your imagination takes flight, who knows where it might take you?

the Creativity Switch

In Abundance, Art and Creativity, Business on April 22, 2010 at 11:49 am

I’m one of those people who cannot look up a word in the dictionary without stopping to admire at least 3 other words along the way, so you can imagine what happens to me once I plug into the internet!?!?

However, despite being deeply distracting and fine procrastination tool, the internet often yields up some lovely gems and this post on How to Flick the Creativity Switch is one of them. Joanna Patterson has multiple blogs about writing, and learning and this is her latest endeavor.

I think this post is important for two reasons, it gives a simple approach we can use to help our clients and it applies to other things as well . . . go read it and then think about what “switches” YOU need to turn on in your brain: the productive writer switch? the coaching switch? the money switch? the relaxation switch?

Me? I’m definitely going to turn on the “smart about money” switch as soon as I finish this post!

~peace, joy and prosperity~